Does anyone have to deal with the uber jealous boyfriend/girlfriend?

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MegaDrive20XX

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Okay I'm in a situation, where my best friend is a female, who's really awesome. Yet her boyfriend is a freakin' over-protective jerk. He keeps asking me questions on a daily basis like "Do you have feelings for her?" and such. Then saying "I won't get mad if you tell me the truth"

Now, in the back of my mind, I'm saying "Stay the heck away from them"....but how? She's my best friend...this is killing me...and frankly depressing me.
 
She should be the one assuring him that there are no feelings between the two of you. Obviously he doesn't have a lot of trust for her....so really, you need to talk to her about it. Tell her that if she wants your friendship to continue, she had better set him straight.

Otherwise......you may have to cut your losses. As sad as it may be, sometimes you just have to get out of the way. She is not very smart, though, if she breaks a friendship for a relationship.
 
I've seen this happen before and usually the girl/guy leaves that person because of it. Just be the friend that you always have been. But if you do have feelings for her then all I can say is chill out and try not to stir anything up at the moment. As long as the boyfriend is not abusive, treats her well and she's happy then I guess just let her be.
 
I agree with Creepin. If he's really a possessive jerk then she'll probably end up leaving him on her own, and the only thing you can do until then is keep being her friend.
 
My best idea would be to discuss the whole matter with her.

You never said if you really do have feelings for her, so that gives one of two ideas here:

Either you:

A.) have feelings for her, but won't say anything because you're afraid of getting on her boyfriends badside.
B.) don't have feelings for her, but are afraid that saying such would hurt her feelings.

It appears to be A from what I see here, as her boyfriend seems to be pressuring you because of it.

You also have to look at it from his point of view a bit. Yes, he's kind of over-reacting, but understand that it's kind of a guys worst nightmare to "share". Especially when it could be more then meets the eye. Trust me, I've been there.
 
Mai Valentine said:
I agree with Creepin. If he's really a possessive jerk then she'll probably end up leaving him on her own, and the only thing you can do until then is keep being her friend.
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Excellent advice.
 
Of course I have feelings for her, she's my best friend. She's very kind to me and she bought me gifts for my cat, Jay Jay. She even made me a mix CD...I cant say Im heartless to her.

Yet I know where I stand. I'm just her friend.
 
You should just tell her boyfriend that you're not going to be so low as to "steal" her from him.

If he can't trust her at the very least not to cheat on him, then perhaps they have some other issues to work out.
 
Tell him to get a life, or at least start asking someone else.
 
You guys have some solid advice. Plus it brings up alot of new theories.

I think what Im going to do, is give them a break, because this has happened before back in May. So round 2 is pointing into that direction.
 
My girlfriends are all imaginary so whenever they get jealous I just let them fight it out. In a big tub of Jell-O. In my mind.





Kinda sad, really. :'(
 
MegaDrive20XX said:
Of course I have feelings for her, she's my best friend. She's very kind to me and she bought me gifts for my cat, Jay Jay. She even made me a mix CD...I cant say Im heartless to her.

Yet I know where I stand. I'm just her friend.
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if you have feelings for her, they shouldnt be supressed. tell her bf exactly what you said in the post i just quoted

come on man, do it for jay jay.

i wish you luck
 
Hinesmdc said:
if you have feelings for her, they shouldnt be supressed. tell her bf exactly what you said in the post i just quoted

come on man, do it for jay jay.

i wish you luck
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Which post you quoted?
 
FrakAttack said:
My girlfriends are all imaginary so whenever they get jealous I just let them fight it out. In a big tub of Jell-O. In my mind.





Kinda sad, really. :'(
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^loved this post
 
Update:

Okay I got them to talk and a major thanks to everyone, especially Mrs. Engima for helping me out.

She talked to her bf and now Im talking to him. It's all settled and it was honestly a misunderstanding. So now we can all be the best of friends :)
 
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