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MR.KAZ

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Hi guys,

I need your advice.

An old friend of mine from High School that I, and a couple of other guys used to play Basketball with died earlier today from some sort of overdose.In High School,one day,I traded a shirt of mine to him for his ball cap.I still have the ball cap he traded me.

When his family goes to the funeral parlor in a few days or so,I thought that it would be nice to give it to them then so that they'll have something to remember him by.My problem is that I'm not sure if I should bring it so soon after his death and give it to them at the funeral parlor,or maybe wait a while until his loved one's have had a few days to mourn.

My heart is in the right place,but what I don't know, is the best time to give it to them.The last thing I want to do is have his mother hurt even more by bringing her the ball cap prematurely.Can anyone offer some advice on this one?

God Bless,
KAZ
 
In either case, it'll bring tears I'm afraid. Give it to them early, they'll cry, let her recover and give it to them later, and the same will happen.

I reckon do it at the funeral. Or maybe put it on his grave.

I mourn the loss of your friend, Kaz.
 
Strubes said:
I'd give it to her right away or put it on his grave like Hell suggested. I'm sorry for your loss Mr.Kaz.
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Thank You Strubes,from the bottom of my heart.
 
Hell Scyth said:
In either case, it'll bring tears I'm afraid. Give it to them early, they'll cry, let her recover and give it to them later, and the same will happen.

I reckon do it at the funeral. Or maybe put it on his grave.

I mourn the loss of your friend, Kaz.
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Thank you Scyth,it's very good of you.
 
MR.KAZ said:
When his family goes to the funeral parlor in a few days or so,I thought that it would be nice to give it to them then so that they'll have something to remember him by.
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Honestly, Kaz, I think they will have plenty to remember him by. Maybe YOU should keep the cap so you can have something to remember him by. But I do think it would be nice to tell them the story. Who knows, they may even smile about it. Granted, they will still definitely be sad, but sometimes at funerals parents or children like it when people tell stories about the nice things their kids or parents did when they were alive. Just a thought. But if your heart is set on giving them the cap, by all means, give it to them.

Sorry to hear about your friend. :(
 
Mr. Kaz I'm quite terribly sorry to hear about your friend. I truly am.

but i think the only suggestion to give you is to either put it on the grave or give it to the parents whenever really because like hell scyth said it would only bring tears any way you put it
 
Thank you for your kind words everyone.I can't tell you how much it's appreciated.As for the cap,I gave it to his brother.It just felt right.

Although I know technically,what the phrase "Something to remember him/her by" means,it's odd the choice of words we use.How could anyone ever forget someone that we love more than ourselves when they pass away?

Once again,Thank You all,
MR.KAZ
 
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