GOD!!! My best friend for the past year comes up to me today and says that he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore. He doesn't say it angrily, just matter-of-factly and to the point. I ask him why, thinking he's joking. He says alot of different things. He says because I am not a christian and I don't point him to the right path. He says he wants to reevaluate his life without me in it. Now, this is the guy I've made short movies with, spent nights talking to about problems and helping with homework. We decided a few months ago that we were going to the Los Angeles Film School together and working as independent filmmakers for our jobs.(Something I'm still going to do.) We talk to each other every day, hang out ALL the time. Suddenly he hates me. I don't understand and I feel like a puppy kicked repeatedly by it's owner. I don't know what to do about it. He won't listen to me, just walks away. I don't have any Idea why he is doing this to me. Someone please give me some advice. :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh :hh
WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM!!!!!
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SpartanEvolved
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Re: WHAT IS YOUR F***ING PROBLEM!!!!!
Might wanna edit the language a bit more before the mod squad comes...
And someone who wouldn't be friends with you over a reason as stupid as that needs to reevaluate his life, regardless of who is in it.
Might wanna edit the language a bit more before the mod squad comes...
And someone who wouldn't be friends with you over a reason as stupid as that needs to reevaluate his life, regardless of who is in it.
mrs_enigma
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Re: WHAT IS YOUR F***ING PROBLEM!!!!!
Well, first of all..I am really sorry for you. A couple of my friends kinda turned their backs on me earlier this year too, and I know it feels really bad when you don't feel like it is your fault, and like the person thinks they are better then you are.
Anyhow, I would try not to get too mad at your friend though. The friend may be struggling with who they are, who they want to be etc. and they may just need a little time to step back alone and seperate who they are out from who you are. I am not sure if that made much sense. Sometimes people take their beliefs to an extreme though, and think that if they are around any "lesser" beings it is going to turn them into a monster.
Anyhow, I think it would be great if you could just give him space until he can think things through. Who knows what is going on in his head?
I feel bad for ya though, cuz it does not feel nice when you feel like you are always nice and fair to someone, and you invest a whole lot in the friendship, and then they go and flip out on ya.
Well, first of all..I am really sorry for you. A couple of my friends kinda turned their backs on me earlier this year too, and I know it feels really bad when you don't feel like it is your fault, and like the person thinks they are better then you are.
Anyhow, I would try not to get too mad at your friend though. The friend may be struggling with who they are, who they want to be etc. and they may just need a little time to step back alone and seperate who they are out from who you are. I am not sure if that made much sense. Sometimes people take their beliefs to an extreme though, and think that if they are around any "lesser" beings it is going to turn them into a monster.
Anyhow, I think it would be great if you could just give him space until he can think things through. Who knows what is going on in his head?
I feel bad for ya though, cuz it does not feel nice when you feel like you are always nice and fair to someone, and you invest a whole lot in the friendship, and then they go and flip out on ya.
Re: WHAT IS YOUR F***ING PROBLEM!!!!!
couldnt of said it better myself !
neogeofl said:
couldnt of said it better myself !
creepindeth04
Moderator
If this guy isn't willing to tough it out with you, then let him be. You'll find plenty of good, reliable friends. Especially in film school. But I understand why you feel bad. Just give him a few days and let him think about what he just did.
Mai Valentine
Moderator
Very odd. But I'd say you're probably better off without someone who would stop being your friend for such asinine reasons.
Ditto.
However his parents may be pressuring him on "thinning the herd" when it comes to friends. I say this because his "cuz you're not a Christian" and that you don't point him in the right direction seems to be an excuse that was manufactured by an overbearing and insensetive mother.
All I can say is maybe shrug it off and hope that he grows some cajones and cuts the apron string.
However his parents may be pressuring him on "thinning the herd" when it comes to friends. I say this because his "cuz you're not a Christian" and that you don't point him in the right direction seems to be an excuse that was manufactured by an overbearing and insensetive mother.
All I can say is maybe shrug it off and hope that he grows some cajones and cuts the apron string.
Samamir360
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I think religion being a problem is a pathetic excuse. If that is actually a problem, I'd say your ex-friend is a very shallow person. I'm friends with a wide variety of people and I never let things like race, religion or appearance blind me from who they are. My friend went out a with a girl whose parents didn't like her socialising with non-Jewish people a couple of years back. Morons.
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mrs_enigma
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I don't know ifit means he is shallow, or not. I mean, the people who used to be closer friends with me and aren't now may have weird sounding reasons like, "She is wearing jeans, makeup and jewelery and is a bad influence." Now I know that sounds super dumb, but they take their religious beliefs really serious, and may experience a lot of guilt if they hung out with me. Maybe that is how Manson's friend is. Plus, if Manson's friend is trying to draw closer to God, and his pastor or parents are pressuring him to turn away from the world etc., then without wanting to be cruel to Manson, he might be rejecting him in order to obtain his own salvation.
I mean, sometimes things can get really confusing when you are trying to work out your religion and stuff.
I think it is kinda cruel that some of you are making jokes about the guy being his girlfriend or whatever. That strikes me as being a rather immature thing to say, but whatever.
I mean, sometimes things can get really confusing when you are trying to work out your religion and stuff.
I think it is kinda cruel that some of you are making jokes about the guy being his girlfriend or whatever. That strikes me as being a rather immature thing to say, but whatever.
mrs_enigma said:
That is not immature. This is not something boys do (especially in High School, you get beat up for acting that way). This is a girl thing. If a guy does not want to be your friend anymore they just blow you off or something. You are in tune with this because you are a girl and this happens to girls and their friends. I do not know any guys that went through this.
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neogeofl said:
I don't know. Maybe it is cuz I am a girl.....
Maybe, I can not really understand what you are talking about. Like, couldn't there be different guys who act different and stuff, or no?
What about Sam and Frodo and Merry and Pippin?????? OK, sorry. You can have your maturity returned, I guess. Ha.
mrs_enigma said:
LOL Do not even get me started on those hobbits!!! :lol
I guess it could happen with boys, but I just have never heard of it before. I have sisters and there always seemed to be something going on with them and their friends. I just think this is a strange situation and especially for 2 boys that are 15 and in High School. It is just not normal. And I was not really making fun of him, just asking if it was a friend or a "FRIEND", if you get what I mean. Even my wife read it and thought the same as me and she is 37.
And sorry I just realized I called you a girl when you are a woman! My appologies!!!!
My best advice to you would be to let it go and move on. I know it seems like if somehow you reach him you might be able to convince him to stay or be friends, but it will only make matters worse. It is unfortunate, but at least he gave you closure.
And please, just for 5 minutes, consider that you are 15 about of a possible 100 year lifespan. You are in the prime of your life. This is the PEAK of your health. It all goes downhill from here kid. TREASURE it. Because once its gone, its gone.
And please, just for 5 minutes, consider that you are 15 about of a possible 100 year lifespan. You are in the prime of your life. This is the PEAK of your health. It all goes downhill from here kid. TREASURE it. Because once its gone, its gone.
Good for your friend.He wants to go a different direction in his life,and he feels you're getting in the way.
Not exactly all his fault is it?
And no,he doesn't hate you.I'm sure he still probably likes you.He just feels he needs to move on in his life,and that basically means leaving you behind.Stop thinking he is the bad guy and you're a victim.Who knows,maybe you DO need to re-evaluate your life and where it is going.
Good for him!
Not exactly all his fault is it?
And no,he doesn't hate you.I'm sure he still probably likes you.He just feels he needs to move on in his life,and that basically means leaving you behind.Stop thinking he is the bad guy and you're a victim.Who knows,maybe you DO need to re-evaluate your life and where it is going.
Good for him!
ThisNameIsCreative said:
I completely disagree with this statement. So yur telling Manson that it is his fault that his friend doesn't want to be friends because of something as pointless as religious preference. Thats retarded.
But to Manson, yea man if your friend is that shallow that he thinks of himself and just leaves you behind, then you need to find some people who will appreciate your beliefs or lack there of...
mrs_enigma
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lesley said:
That sounds a tad depressing...Couldn't it go uphill for a long while before heading downhill?
OK, I want to say, alot of the guys on here are calling me gay. I was raised by three women since I was 2 years old, so I'm going to go through situations the way they showed me to; since I never had a father figure in my life, so go screw yourselves. 
mrs_enigma
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Manson2 said:OK, I want to say, alot of the guys on here are calling me gay. I was raised by three women since I was 2 years old, so I'm going to go through situations the way they showed me to; since I never had a father figure in my life, so go screw yourselves.
I don't think you are gay, and I still can't see why it is so weird for you to feel upset about this, either.
I would think that if you have a good friend, then that friend should mean something to you, and that if you suddenley lose the friend, that you should feel bad.
I mean, it is not like good friends just fall off trees.
Maybe, you are just not supposed to tell anyone that you feel bad, or something. I think sometimes guys just like to pretend that nothing matters to them.
The thing that I don't like is that if you be open about something, then people have to pick on you. If a person is open about things they feel, then other people should be nice to them....not bash them for it.
creepindeth04
Moderator
mrs_enigma said:
Exactly. And even if he was, it shouldn't matter anyway. Everybody deals with problems their own way. If you're not going to help them then I don't see why you should even say anything to that person. This isn't to pick on anyone one person, just in general.