A Topic For Parents Who Love Gaming As Much As Their Children

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After being a member and going through a great deal of topics with respect to gaming among other subjects,I was just wondering that with all the passion you parents have for gaming causes you to have different views than other parents who aren't gamers with respect to children wanting to play all the time,which conversely,could serve as a good way to bond with you gamers as parents.

Are you more likely to allow your children to play all hours of the day instead of doing homework,because you both share a mutual love of gaming if it means improving your bonding with your with your kids is what I trying to get across.

Sincerely- MR.KAZ 1:8
 
Games in my house are off limits from Sunday night to Friday afternoon. In other words, if my son doesn't have homework, his butt is going outside. When he gets the routine down, I may relax it a bit so that he'll get some playing time during the week.
 
I love gaming very much, but I do realize the need to make priorities and to fulfill responsibilities. I expect the same from others in the household. Also Family members do have a need to spend time together and if it revolves around gaming it will have to be something like Bomberman where everyone can participate. There are chores around the house that must take a front seat. Other things need to be accomplished before gaming time can be had. As much as I would like to believe it, 24 hour gaming is not in touch with reality. If you are single and want to stay single for the rest of your life, then 24 hour gaming just might be possible. :) But then again you need a job to survive. :)
 
Having been a foster parent (to my sisters children) it was very rough trying to get some gaming time in. Other things simply should take precedence. That being said, we love the family games such as Raving Rabbids and Mario Party. We had a great time all playing together. We also took turns in co-op with the Lego Star Wars games, and that was a blast. So gaming time was more like a family activity and fun time spent together, not a solitary thing.

However, my personal gaming time went out the window pretty much. I only just finished Final Fantasy XII and I bought it and started it the day it released ... same with Tales of the Abyss (which I've yet to finish).

So just because I love games, didn't mean that we played more. It did mean that I maybe understood my little 7 year old nephew a little better. I didn't get so worried when I saw how involved he got with Kingdom Hearts 2 or how excited he was when he finally had a chance to sit and play for an hour. I've seen other parents I know who freaked out if their kids showed too much of an interest in games, and yet other parents who use games as a babysitter. I don't know if my history with gaming helped, but I did try to have a balanced view of it just like with any other form of entertainment.
 
I understand it's not cool to be overbearing. But my son has to realize that structure is needed in order to do well in school. He did play some tonight, but it was cut off at 8:00. He was pissed, but I didn't care. He got in trouble in school today too. So I asked my wife how he had the luxury of playing. She didn't have an answer. But it's also a learning curve...

Priorities are as follows during the week(for now): School, family time, games. If he doesn't do his homework or acts up in school, he gets no games.
 
After my kids do their homework they can play video games. But I make them do their homework as soon as they get home, before doing other fun things.
 
I'm no parent (as of yet, but in future wish to be), but my rules are simple. Just as my parents told me.

1) Get your work out of the way, then play till you drop.
2) If you're free of work, play till you drop.
3) Finally, and above all, still get the heck outside and socialise.

Simple... Yet direct. :D
 
Hell Scyth said:
I'm no parent (as of yet, but in future wish to be), but my rules are simple. Just as my parents told me.

1) Get your work out of the way, then play till you drop.
2) If you're free of work, play till you drop.
3) Finally, and above all, still get the heck outside and socialise.

Simple... Yet direct. :D
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That sounds like a good set of rules! :)
 
Yeah, it's worked for me. :) I'm a hardcore gamer, but I've got mysefl a pretty good outside life too. Unlike my GF's brother who basically sits at home and even when there's someone up he barely chats to them. he's lazy.
 
Well, since baby girl isn't coordinated enough to game yet, she still likes to sit with me and solve the puzzles (and whatnot) on TV. Its funny to watch her logic processes as she solves the in game nonsequiturs. "?! Whose foot prints are these?" Brat, "Those are his footprints!" I knock on the wall. "What was that noise?" Brat, "That was YOU daddy!"

She is coming across the basic strategies on games that I never considered. Man, she's sharp...
 
She's 3, but her intellect is more like a 5 or 6 year old. Not trying to brag about my kid...Honest. She will say the strangest things that relate to whatever conversation is going on. It's funny because she says things so innocently with a complete sentance structure, usually with that childlike inflection. The other day I was playing Assasins Creed and I snuck up on a guard on a rooftop. She said, "Ok, now Daddy...Sneak up on him when he doesn't see you and smack him off the roof." She. was. right.
 
Why are you playing Assassin's Creed in front of a three year old?
 
I guess by playing such violence, you'd expect them to understand how to defend themselves in a situation that deems it necessary... but I guess that could be a bad thing if such teachings are taken the wrong way.

This is where parenting comes i. Teaching your kids that it's fictional and that it shouldn't be taken into prqactice in the real world.
 
Believe me when I say that I use a lot of discretion around my daughter when I game. I played Metroid Prime 3 in front of her and she grabbed a cardboard mailer tube and placed it over her right arm and started "shooting" at "bugs". I thought it was cute, the wife wasn't so amused. I was all, "Honey, Samus is a positive role model for girls."

I usually do a lot of my gaming at night, so I place my Assassins Creed without worry. But once in a while she either sneakout into the living room and comment on what I'm doing. I stopped playing Bioshock because I didn't want her to get the wrong idea abou things. When she caught me playing Assassin's Creed, I had to explain that the game wasn't real and that the guy had to defend himself and save people from the bad guys. I did a lot of essays and reports back in the day about the corruption of youth and the violence in entertainment. My conclusion was alwasy the same; it's all about the parenting. You can't shy children away from the bad things in life, but you can help define and nurture their reality. Things aren't always bad, and likewise, things aren't always good. It's how we teach our children about what is considered good and evil and that large gray area to help orient their moral compasses.

I knew a lot of girls growing up that took a lot of crap from everyone and they just accepted it. My hope is the little girl will grow up to be a force to be reckoned with, like every little irish girl should be. I'm not condoning the fact that she might be exposed to a lot of harsh images, but I will definitely help her understand them when she does find them.

besides, it wouldn't hurt me feelings if she was putting her CQC techniques to good use...
 
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