Girl problem!

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I have a slight girl problem. Me and this girl have known each other for a while, and I think we really like each other, and I wanna ask her out. Sound smooth right? Well heres the problem. She smokes, does drugs, drinks, and makes out with guys... and girls. Basically, she is a naughty girl.

We are both 14. I wanna go out with her, but I dont want to go over to the dark side. She is actually really cool when she isn't.. you know... but I've always been raised not to touch that stuff. I'm really worried for her... and myself as well. So, as the Elite Beat Agent patients say...

"HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLP!!!"
 
Well, my two cents is stay away. Smoking is such a major turn off, and doing drugs and drinking when you are 14 isn't a good sign.

Do what you think is right though, and always remember that there are plenty of girls out there.
 
I would deff stay away. SMOKING IS A HUGE TURNOFF, but thats just my 2 cents. Do what you know is right, you know that little guy inside of you that tells you what to do, listen to him. Or you can do what I always do and flip a coin :lol JK Good luck, I know you will make the right choice ;)
 
Boom$ickle said:
I have a slight girl problem. Me and this girl have known each other for a while, and I think we really like each other, and I wanna ask her out. Sound smooth right? Well heres the problem. She smokes, does drugs, drinks, and makes out with guys... and girls. Basically, she is a naughty girl.

We are both 14. I wanna go out with her, but I dont want to go over to the dark side. She is actually really cool when she isn't.. you know... but I've always been raised not to touch that stuff. I'm really worried for her... and myself as well. So, as the Elite Beat Agent patients say...

"HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLP!!!"
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At age 14, doing that stuff isn't a good sign. I really don't think there's much you can do for her, but you yourself should probably stay away, as much as it sucks not having a gf.
 
Well -

If you started dating someone that you don't believe is doing the kind of things you accept,
just because there aren't many other girls at the moment, doesn't seem too good.

Someone who did those things, wouldn't be appealing to me. And at the times when they weren't doing them,
I would still know that those are their interests and that's who they are.
So it just depends on how much it affects you.

Personally I would say not to get involved, but you could stay friends.
People can change, you could always wait.
 
She is trying to get attention in all the wrong ways. She will wind up getting you busted because the smoke will stick to your clothes and the smell of tobacco/marijuana is undeniable. I remember coming home from a party and realizing my clothes smelled rank from smoke when I was younger. Not only that, but if she is making out with a bunch of guys, who knows what else she is doing. Best to keep yourself virus/disease free. Kissing lots of people and smoking their pipes / joints is going to pass bacteria and viruses around.

With that said, it is still your decision. Just be careful. :D
 
Common sense suggests that nobody can change another person. Can't do it. You said that you were raised to avoid such activities. I say heed to those teachings.

Here's what could happen if you did indeed start dating her. You'll condone her behaviour. She will get into harder drugs. Heavier drinking, etc. Not only that, you may give in to the pressure and start doing the same things yourself. And to me, killing your future, putting yourself at risk for STDs, alcoholism, or possible drug overdoses don't seem appealing.

Here's what could happen if you wash your hands of her. You'll feel depressed for a while, you'll feel lonely. But that's all on the surface. You'll get over it and one day you'll find someone who will compliment your self respect.
 
Stay away, man. Seriously. The girl is trouble.

Personally I think 14 is too young to be dating anyway. People don't really know themselves yet. How are you going to be in relationship and figure that out when you are still figuring yourself out? ^_^
 
Mai Valentine said:
Stay away, man. Seriously. The girl is trouble.

Personally I think 14 is too young to be dating anyway. People don't really know themselves yet. How are you going to be in relationship and figure that out when you are still figuring yourself out? ^_^
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Every word is truth.
 
Boom$ickle said:
not for me there ain't. :'(
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I don't have any sort of advice. I just wanted to say that I feel bad that you are having to go through all this junk, and having a hard time feeling like the things you want are what you don't want, etc.

Life just stinks sometimes. It is full of confusing choices, and, ya, it is really lonely sometimes, and it is hard waiting for some special girl to show up...one who would be really attractive to you, but not get you messed up in drugs and stuff....and it is hard not knowing if she is even out there and all that.

I hope whatever choice you make works out for ya.
 
mrs_enigma said:
I don't have any sort of advice. I just wanted to say that I feel bad that you are having to go through all this junk, and having a hard time feeling like the things you want are what you don't want, etc.

Life just stinks sometimes. It is full of confusing choices, and, ya, it is really lonely sometimes, and it is hard waiting for some special girl to show up...one who would be really attractive to you, but not get you messed up in drugs and stuff....and it is hard not knowing if she is even out there and all that.

I hope whatever choice you make works out for ya.
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That's probably the best advice anyone has given him yet.
 
Boom$ickle said:
I have a slight girl problem. Me and this girl have known each other for a while, and I think we really like each other, and I wanna ask her out. Sound smooth right? Well heres the problem. She smokes, does drugs, drinks, and makes out with guys... and girls. Basically, she is a naughty girl.

We are both 14. I wanna go out with her, but I dont want to go over to the dark side. She is actually really cool when she isn't.. you know... but I've always been raised not to touch that stuff. I'm really worried for her... and myself as well. So, as the Elite Beat Agent patients say...

"HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLP!!!"
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doing all that when your 14, if at all, is not good. i say stay far, far away. im 16 and have had my fair share of peer pressure situations, and i never did any of that stuff, but it can get pretty frustrating when everyone is staring at you wanting u to do it. anyway, what im saying is, she might want you to try drugs, or alcohol, and i really dont think you want to do those things bud.
 
You're trying to date a rebel of sorts. She's doing everything to get attention, and I have my doubts as to whether she realizes what she is doing is harmful to herself.

It's doubtful that you can change her. She seems to lead quite the screwed up life. If you think you can "bring her to her senses", then go ahead, but she seems a little too far gone if you ask me. I don't think it would be worth the trouble.

And don't doubt that there aren't many girls. There's always someone else. Especially if you aren't looking very hard.

My first girlfriend was actually someone I had only met once previously. When I was walking home from school, mmy friend just randomly blurted out "Oh yea, there's this girl that wants to go out with you". Considering I was a junior in high school, I didn't think anyone would want to go out with me, as two and a half years had passes. Sure enough, I met her. Uber quiet and shy, one of those girls that blushes anytime you got near her. I hadn't even payed attention to her, didn't even know she existed, until my friend pointed her out. She must've had a crush on me since we first met at lunch (and I hardly talked to her then anyway), and had tried to get near me one other time at a dance, when one of her friends approached me and asked if I would dance with her. Looking back, I kind of felt bad, but she didn't give up. We went out for a couple months, but she broke up with me, because her family life was screwed up (she was with a foster family because her biological family was abusive, and she was moving around a lot), and she was afraid she was going to drag me around with it, and was afraid she'd hurt emotionally.

Wow, said more then I thought I would. Don't doubt that there's "nobody left". There's always someone else.
 
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