Man, breaking up is tough...

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My girlfirend just broke up with me today.  It wasn't either of our faults.  There was no one else involved.

The main reason?  Distance.

Being 18 and in college throws me away from seeing her day to day like I used to.  I was limited to weekends, and even that was tough.  She's almost 17 and a junior in high school.

It's just the distance that was killing the relationship.  Ours was great.  We loved eachother more than probably either of our parents loved eachother.  However, she just couldn't take not being able to see me only once or twice every 1-2 weeks.

She just called me up about 30 minutes ago, apoligizing like hell.  For some reason I just couldn't cry, and couldn't help but say: "it's gonna be ok".

It wasn't till after our call that I just curled up on the couch and cried.  So many good memories, all through since last January 21'st, seem like they all go to waste when you know you can never be with that person anymore.

The one thing college screws me over with is my love life.  She was one-of-a-kind. I doubt I'll ever find one as perfect for me as her....
 
Nova said:
My girlfirend just broke up with me today. It wasn't either of our faults. There was no one else involved.

The main reason? Distance.

Being 18 and in college throws me away from seeing her day to day like I used to. I was limited to weekends, and even that was tough. She's almost 17 and a junior in high school.

It's just the distance that was killing the relationship. Ours was great. We loved eachother more than probably either of our parents loved eachother. However, she just couldn't take not being able to see me only once or twice every 1-2 weeks.

She just called me up about 30 minutes ago, apoligizing like hell. For some reason I just couldn't cry, and couldn't help but say: "it's gonna be ok".

It wasn't till after our call that I just curled up on the couch and cried. So many good memories, all through since last January 21'st, seem like they all go to waste when you know you can never be with that person anymore.

The one thing college screws me over with is my love life. She was one-of-a-kind. I doubt I'll ever find one as perfect for me as her....
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same thing happened to me man

and it sucks

the reason we split was because of college, if it wasnt for that we still would be together....
 
MegaDrive20XX said:
how far is the distance?
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I suppose I wasn't clear enough on this. I meant this in a more surreal sense, I guess. She's still in high school and I'm now in college, and she couldn't deal with me not being there with her everyday, and only being able to see me maybe once a week. I still live at home, so technically the distance hasn't increased, but she was having trouble dealing with me not being there.

Since I wasn't there anymore, she was also feeling a little more independant.

The next week is gonna be tough. I'm wondering what reminders I should keep.
 
That is really common for people going off to college. Sometimes the best thing to do is just start looking for a new closer girlfriend. That situation happened to both me and my brother. He is now dating a girl at OU and Im not dating at the moment.
 
That sucks, man. It's sad to see two people that love each other so much can't be together for one reason or another. I understand the situation completely.........I have had a few friends that did the same thing.

Fortunately.....I think you will both be ok. Give it a little time to pass, and you two will be fine. There are tons of other people out there to date.
 
Oh, I don't know, 5-10 miles maybe?  Never bothered to check.  The point is though, that I was never there at school with her.

I just talked to her on AIM, and we got everything sorted out, now that neither of us are as sad about it.  Turns out she's worse than me, as her mom won't let her have any more boyfriends for another 6 months (because she "broke up with such a great guy"), and she's not allwed to see one of her closer friends (whom is a guy, and one I became friends with as well).

I really feel sorry for her friend.  She had said that if anything was to happen between us, this friend would be her "back-up" boyfriend of sorts.  He was a childhood sibling.  If you don't get what I'm talking about, think of it this way in terms of FF VII:

My girlfriend is Cloud

I'm Aeris

and her friend would be Tifa

So, they're close friends, but not really love interests.  Of course, whe stated she'd never break up with me to go out with him, and I trust her with that.  She still isn't, but this stupid rule that her mom made isn't fair to him, or anyone else that may have taken an interest in her now.
 
Dang. I went through a similar experience. I graduated, moved out of my parents' house and geared up for college. My girlfriend at the time was a senior. We drifted apart and that was it. A few months later I abandoned my college plans in California and moved back to Arizona. I never saw her again.

So I give you advice. Throw out the bad times and never forget the good. And know that there will always be someone you can connect with even though it's in a slightly different way.
 
Well, I went over to her house today to try and work things out. We were both heartbroken, and she realized that she had made a mistake (this is from her POV, not mine BTW).

So today, I felt like we had gotten together again from the first time. We were both happy to see eachother, and missed eachother too much to throw one out.

Although I came on surprise notice (she didn't want to deal with her mom on me coming over after we broke up), her parents didn't seem to mind me being over anyway. Which is good, because it shows that they still trust me around her.

Life is full of speed bumps, apparently. I guess this one gave me a flat tire for the day.
 
yeah... just go back in it with guarded caution.

Don't let yourself out too much yet... otherwise you might be eating it late... unfortunately.

Women...

Bv :hat
 
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